From school shootings to our favorite musical artists, the elephant in the room has now become the bull in a china shop. Mass hysteria for something we should have had under control for some time now. At least we're now talking about it publicly as opposed to putting it under the rug. Mental illness. Even if you don't have it, it's reach will effect you in some form or fashion. It's one thing to hear about it on the news, but how about if someone you desire is going through their own battles? How do you deal with that? Do you want to learn more or are you scared by what you hear on TV? Will you pre-judge or take the time to learn that maybe your diagnosis of what mental illness is is greatly exaggerated. Tune in to what we had to say on this very important subject.
Back on the podcast is Jenn's niece, Jasmine, and her girlfriend Sarah. It's a laid back episode this week as we tackle subjects that pop up from thin air. What a fun, thought provoking, emotional episode it turned out to be. Who says Millennials are the worst? (oh yeah, Jenn does! lol) Tune in to hear what goes on in these young minds and inadvertently how old they make us feel.
"It's okay". "Thanks in advance". "No that's okay...I'LL do it". YEESH. Have you heard or spoken any of these lines? We put so much effort into avoiding conflict. Are you the same? Can you identify? What are the reasons? How can we stop it? We had the lovely Brigid back to tell us her story about her most recent bout with passive aggressiveness and we also a LIVE listener question! Tune in to hear what we had to say!
#109 - Naked & Afraid: How Do We Date & Mate In a #MeToo World? w/Sexologist & Psychotherapist Dr. Kristie Overstreet
From Ansari to "I'm Sorry", there's been a range of the good, the bad, and the ugly pertaining to the #MeToo Movement. The one thing lacking is sort of a "rules and regulations" to the conversation. How do we date in a #metoo world? How do we touch/make love to a suitor? Can we still mimic what they do in the movies or is that outdated? Can a person be "too" careful enough to ruin the mood? No one wants to make anyone uncomfortable so how do we go about interacting with someone in a romatic manner? We got a returning guest to hopefully help us make sense of this new world we live in. Tune in to see what we came up with!
Have you ever dated someone only to find that they're juuust out of reach? Not mentally out of reach, or even physically - but geographically. We're not even talking long distance either. Maybe a bridge away or a couple tolls, or how about even a hour away. Yes, as the saying goes "what won't you do for love", but we're not being lazy here! Going back and forth seeing someone who may live in a metropolitan area while you may be "in the sticks" is a daunting venture in the world of dating. Time & money are at an all time high when dealing with these parameters. So is it worth depleting your resources for this person, or should you just find someone with the same zip code? Tune in as we talk this out with our guest!
This is pretty much a revisit of a topic we explored on Episode 29 but with a new spin on things and with a new person! What position should we play in a relationship? Should we take turns? What if you are the lead and don't feel comfortable being the submissive one because it doesn't suit who you are? Will you step back for the betterment of the relationship or do you feel that we have our roles to play and no need to play musical chairs? Listen in to hear what we had to say!
We got a PACKED HOUSE this episode because it is such a hot topic that we couldn't do it alone. FINALLY, it's the two people that we've been trying to get on at the same time meeting for the first time EVER! We were waiting for the fisticuffs to fly between our guests but little did we know, the tables would turn and it would be the HOSTS that would be in the heat of battle! One guest even got some verbal jabs in to prove their point. Was it justified or was insecurity at play? Was it "Tough Love" or a battle royale? What in the blue hell could have gotten us all riled up? You're gonna have to tune in to find out!
With #MeToo, #TimesUp, and female empowerment in general putting women in the forefront, there's one group that can't it take anymore and wants to bow out altogether and that's M.G.T.O.W. MGTOW or "Men Going Their Own Way" have rallied together and decided that women aren't worth the hassle they put men through and have gone on to focus on their own endeavors sans distractions. Was Al Bundy onto something 25 years ago when he started "No MA'AM?" on Married... with Children? Does this movement actually have merit to it or is this movement as dumb now as it was back then? Find out what we and our returning special guest think about this faction of fury!
"Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Whore. SKANK. Hoe bag. Trick. etc. Um, are you sure? Women & teenage girls get harassed on a daily basis with those words and they are most certainly getting hurt by them. Anything that a woman does gets scrutinized. from wearing something that shows her curves, to an instagram pic of her being revealing, or even her talking about her sexual exploits, a woman can get verbally attacked by being just who she is yet met with countless voices telling her what the masses THINK she is. How do we combat this tug of war? Does a woman have to be discreet to be respected? Are women too sensitive to criticism? We got a guest from the past to discuss this and she was all too eager to return to shed some light on something that was dear to her heart. Tune in to see what we said!
Ahh.... the Friend zone. The lovely place where hopes and dreams go to die. Melodramatic, I know, but hey that's how it seems when we get put in there. Sadness, Disappointment, and maybe some slight resentment. Is the friend zone really that bad? Or is it just all in our heads? Should you stay friends after you get rejected? Or should you leave because that person doesn't know what they're missing out on. Questions, questions which is why we had assistance for the podcast who knows a thing or two about the friend zone. He wrote a song about it, want to hear it? Here it go.. tune in to hear the song and advice from us and our guest RIGHT NOW!
Are you still friends with a former lover while being in a new relationship? Have you guys settled in your new roles or has that ex crossed the line a couple times? Do they still reminiscence about the past? Do they talk about how things could have been different? Do they have something to say about your current relationship? What does your current partner think about this? Do they even now this side commentary is going on? "What happens in the past, stays in the past". Not always as it seems. How do you even begin to deal with a situation like this? We had to get some help on this one as Miss April Speaks lends her sage words on the issue. Tune in to see what she says!
"Babe, who's that?" "Ehhh.. nobody, you don't need to worry bout them". "Don't I now? MMMmmmm HMPH." Why do we do that to ourselves? Why can't we just "be"? Have we been watching too many "soaps" to think that the opposite sex just can't be friends? Is the person we're not supposed to worry about be the VERY THING we're supposed to worry about? Should we let our paranoia get the best of us or just trust our partner that they aren't or have never been any shenanigans going on? Tune in to see what we think!
Happy 100th EPISODE! We made it! Thank you all for listening and joining us on this crazy journey. This ep we take a trip down memory lane, give shouts to our guests, and we replay THE AND! Also our actual topic: What were some of the things people told you when you were younger about life / love / sex / relationships? Did those things live up to the hype? Have those “Pearls of Wisdom” from Your Youth held their weight in Adulthood? Tune in and celebrate with us!
"I need you." "I can't do this without you." "Don't Go." "Stay with me. PLEASE!" To the untrained eye these could be taken as excerpts from your favorite romance movie or it could be something deeper. To be able to rely on a significant other in time of need is wonderful, but to feel that you need them to "live" is most certainly not. We delve into the topic of codependency for a bit, and even though we didn't have a guest per se, we had a person in mind to mine from their experience.
We did things a little differently this episode. We invited one of our faithful listeners on the show! Besides fan-girling out, she gives a live Q & A, what she likes about the show and also shares her story worthy of a BLB stamp of 'WTF?!'. Come listen as we feel the love from the internets!
Rape. Regret. Consent. Coerce. Harass. Her ass. Misconduct. Misunderstood. Yes. NO. #MeToo. Men too. These words have been on the forefront of every blog, news ticker, morning radio show, and internet timeline for the past 5 months. We thought it was time for us to give in our own 2 cents on the matter. Join us as we discuss the serious matters of Today the only way BedLoveBeyond knows how: with Laughter, Listening, and of course Learning. Tune in as we try to tackle and make sense of what's going on in today's climate together.
There's a saying that goes "Make Love, Not War". Good words to live by, but how long can that vibe last in a relationship? There's bound to be moments where the parties involved clash on something. So when that time comes, how are you going to deal with it? Run away and say goodbye if you want to survive screaming out "It's time to be free?" Are you going to fight dirty and say things to emotionally cripple your partner just to win? Is it worth it? Are you going to take the high road and hold your opinion in and not fight. How good is that for your soul to not be able to share your thoughts? Listen in to see what we think on the matter!
"No one is good enough for my daughter!" "I'm not gonna let some floosie take away my son!" YIKES! Have you come across statements like that in your life? These might be exaggerated but unfortunately they DO exist in some form or another. If you're thinking about being in relationship (or already in one), there might be a chance that your parents won't like your significant other. They might have had someone totally different in mind for you. So what do you do with that? Do you try to find someone that suits their wishes for you? Or do you just go with your gut and let your heart decide? Could there be a chance that your parent's vision for a partner can match your own? Tune in to see what we think on the matter!
Marriage was everything back in the day. It was such a pinnacle point in one's life to have pride and joy in. Now-a-days, marriage seems like something you do when you're bored on a Saturday night. With shows like "Married At First Sight", "90 Day Fiance", & "The Bachelor/(ette)", people have been complaining that these shows make the sacred act of joining people for the rest of their lives into a farce. These shows make the ceremony or act to be trivial and flippant. While the shows are entertaining because their trainwreck premises, could their be truth to the complaints? Are these shows ruining the sanctity of marriage or is this just the sign of the times of how marriage is viewed by the populace? Tune in and see what we think!
Well, well, well... it's that time of year again! A year of reflecting and getting ready for the new year. Jenn & I makes our wish list for 2018 and also we take a look back to see if we kept our promises from 2017 as well. Do you keep your resolutions or just toss them to the wind once the ball drops? Tune in to see what we have to say about you keeping up with your list!
"Shit or get off the pot". Who hasn't heard THAT one before? YUP, you know the scenario. One person, arms folded, tapping their feet with a stern face on while the other is scrambling to make a decision. Is the jig up? Who knows, it's up to the parties involved. But while people might think what's taking so long, another question that you should ponder is why it took so long in the first place. Decisions in a relationship whether it's moving in or getting engaged should not be taken lightly. It takes a considerable amount of courage to do either so one shouldn't just dive in without first going it over. On the other hand, how long does it take to come up with an answer. You've looked it over from any angle & went over every scenario. TWICE. When is it time to take the leap? Is it now.. or never?
Is age really nothing but a number? To some it's everything. "I can't date a person younger / older than me?! It's just creepy!" To others, it's a very 'go with the flow.' "The heart wants what it wants" and all that. But can your relationship be successful when you realize when you were 12 your beau was in diapers? What do you talk about? Can you keep up with one another? Are you too old and they too young that the both of you use the "airplane" method to feed each other? WHAT'S GOING ON?! Luckily we have 2 great guests to break this age gap down for us. Does love know no bounds no matter the timespan or should we just stick to people our own decade and apply to AARP together? Tune in to find out what we think.
Confidence. Game. SWAG. In the dating game, you're gonna need any one of those aforementioned words if you're gonna make it out there in the field. It's bad out there, and in this age of social media and dating apps, gaining a person's attention is getting harder and harder each day. How do you make yourself stand out? How do you keep the person you have once you got got them? How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? We have a special guest to help us out with our questions (okay, maybe not the last one). So tune in and listen as there are a lot of mic drops on this episode - particularly cause I'm clumsy - but ALSO because our guest is dropping some KNOWLEDGE up in this place!
"Timid", "tepid", "tame". Every heard these words before? How bout "reserved", "restrictive", "restrained"? Yeah? Cool. Now, ever heard these words used to describe how you are sexually? Yikes. Don't fret, BedLoveBeyond has got you covered. For some reason, when it comes to sex we as a people are very modest. Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, but overall we can be quite the bashful bunny when it comes to being venerable in that arena. I'm not talking about getting freaky with strangers & one night stands, but more so long standing relationships and even in marriages (with kids!). We feel, well... "naughty" about being naughty! Huh? How can you not be comfortable with your partner or the person who has pledged to stay with you until they die? Who else would come in line after that for you to go "yeah, okay, I can bring down my wall for this person"? For this ep, we wanted to free and talk about the naughty side of life and some of the things you can get yourself into if you want go that route. Listen in and add some spice in your life!
Solo. Its definition is "a thing done by one person unaccompanied, in particular" but, depending how you look at it, can be taken different ways. Usually solo is looked at negatively. You're by yourself, you're doing this workload alone, there's no one here to comfort you in your sorrows, etc. But now, particularly women, are reclaiming it to be a positive term. Sologamy has been trending for some time and now it's at the forefront as something people might want to consider. Others see it as a cry for help and a look for desperation. Which side of the coin do you fall under? Listen in as Jenn, myself and our special guest Kathy discuss what this whole new wave is.
#87 - Don’t Judge A Profile By Its Selfie?: Would You Shun A Suitor Based On What They Post On Social Media?
Ladies, did someone ever slide in your DM and impress you so much that you just HAD to look at their page? Did you ever do a double take because of what was posted? They were *this close* to getting your number until you saw a chick with her face down ass up on his page. Fellas, you were about to ask for her digits before you saw that their whole wall was about God? Or Feminism? Do these things really raise flags in our eyes or are we just too judgmental? Jennifer and I discuss the in's and outs of this hypothetical. Take a listen, will you?
#86 - Bring Me a Higher Love: Exploring Intimacy Farther then The Physical w/ Relationship Educator Yanni Brown
With dating, especially at the beginning, people tend to rush through the pleasantries and only want get to the "good" part. Not pointing fingers or anything, sex is AWESOME, but is that really the thing we should be focusing on? What happened to being the Tortoise instead of the Hare? What about the slow build? I'm not even talking about foreplay (although that's nice too!). What happened to getting to know a person first? Getting to know the Ins and Outs of them as opposed to just going in and out of them? There are other ways of getting to know a person before you do the horizontal polka. That's where our special guest steps in. Yanni Brown, relationship educator, lets us know the many ways of being intimate before we even get take our clothes off.
In the interest of equality amongst the sexes, it was only fair to have a sequel to Episode 78's "What's the Issue with Today's Man?". After an informative talk with Elliott Katz on the issues of Men not being able to meet Women's standards in dating, it was time to see the other side of the coin and assess the attempts at Love from some women in the dating sphere. Why haven't they been successful in getting a man? Some of the revelations may shock you. I get to the nitty gritty with our guest today who (learning from experience) was more than happy to share some insight on the matter of females missing the mark when it came to love. Tune in to see what was said!
Once upon a time a show declared that Space was the "final frontier". It was THE territory for us to discover, document, and disclose to the masses what was found during the journey of the mission. But, I wonder... is it really the last region left to explore? Sure, Space is MASSIVE and we know very little of it, but there is a place out there everyone will go to eventually that we know even less about. That is the Other Side of Life. Our generation won't get to witness all the wonders of Space, but everyone, one day, will pass and we have yet to tap into any real substance into the realm of the Unknown - though today we had a possible glimpse. In this episode our guest today tells the story of her husband speaking to her from beyond the grave. In his messages he shares what it's like to be on the the Other Side, the meaning (and purpose) of Life, how Heaven handles Evil, and so forth. As we delved into other topics to broaden our infancy of knowledge on the subject, it was at least comforting to know one of the few things that can survive the transference between dimensions is Love. Listen in and enjoy!
#83 - Would You Ever Sleep With A Guy…While Your Man Was Watching In Front of You? Wait, What the CUCK?!
Hi-dee-ho, neighbor! Talk about a topic, eh? What in the world?! But yeah, we went there. It was an episode we wanted to do back in the early days of BLB. After watching an episode of "You're The Worst" about the subject we thought it should be revisited, for the first time. But what say you? Could you have sex with a person while your signficiant other looked on? Weird scenario right? Trust me, I hear you. But there is a culture that does this very thing. Some of them find it even empowering and brings the relationships closer! Who woulda thunk? Could you do it or is it too weird for you? Or maybe, you can't WAIT to do it but don't know how to bring it up to your partner? Now THERE'S a twist! Listen in to see what our answers are!
A couple episodes ago, we had the Millennial on to discuss love in their day & age, and this episode we discuss what's going on in the later years of our lives with the baby boomer. The "Winter" of Life stage, as they say, is the stage where we're no longer in our prime but still have some vigor in us. Our ideal state is to be in our twilight years with the one we promised ourselves to a lifetime ago, but sometimes that might not be the case. Whether through unfortunate circumstances or otherwise, we could be alone in our old age. What is one to do if faced with that possibility? The dating world is not how it once was. It has drasitically changed from the Sadie Hawkins Dance to sliding in someone's DMs. How you do feel they will fare in this new age world of digital pimping & dick pics? Take a listen and see what we discover!
#81 - Being Happy After Heartache: Healing Your Soul and Walking Away (in Your New Soles and Heels!) w/ Author Kim Interdonato
Whatever stage of love you're at (puppy, adolescent, "grown folk", or mature), experiencing heartache can be soul crushing. The loss of Love and the erasure of a future with that person definitely brings a storm cloud of emotions that can make even the strongest willed person quiver with uncertainty about getting better. Whether you dodged a bullet, "it was for the best", or you've convinced yourself you lost "the one", the end result of the relationship doesn't matter. It's what happens after that needs the most focus. Today, we have Kim on the show to talk about how she recovered and why it’s important to be happy after heartbreak and be more alive with life.
“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not so easy” – Aristotle, 384 B.C.
It's hard to curb your anger when you just want to blurt out your feelings to someone as soon as they cross you. But that rage not only is bad for the relationship, but bad for your health. Join us as Dr. Un explains how to "not speak" in order to get our point across to one another. Also he goes through the minutiae of what our body goes through when we have these explosive outbursts and how these moments can have negative health effects on us.
#79 - Being A Late Bloomer: The Growing Pains & The Wonder Years w/guest “The Rock God of Podcasting” Charles McFall
That awkward moment when everyone around you has done everything (TWICE) and you're just standing there like *DERP*. Welcome to Late Blooming, population YOU. Yup, late blooming can seem like an isolated event. Here you are in your adolescence and your friends are all ahead and 'advanced', talking about things you thought you would only get to experience at 30! It's such a bummer to see your peers (seemingly) so well rounded and mature and you're still twiddling your thumbs in the corner because you haven't been knighted with the fabled "magical mature baton". But what we realize in insight is that there is no baton, and maybe just wasn't your time to mature yet. Everybody goes at a different pace for sure, but at the time life is in a vacuum so you want everything to happen to you now just like your friends. Some are lucky, but some are totally not. Today is one of those stories, with many hurdles and delays to "Bloomdom". The Rock God of Podcasting Charles McFall shares his story of being a late bloomer and overcoming adversity and still being able to achieve what most late bloomers can only hope to accomplish. Strap into your seat, cause you're in for a great show!
Whether it's through song, poetry, spoken word or tweet, women are letting their feelings known about the opposite sex - and it's not good. Time after time another declaration is heard from the masses claiming that men aren't doing their "job" and "real" men are few and far between. Is this claim real? What HAS happened to men and is there a way to fix the problem? Listen as we get to the bottom of this for all (Wo)mankind!