Time and time again we psych ourselves out over saying those 3 little words. We go crazy because we know what those words mean. I'm not talking about saying it for the 48th time before you hang up the phone with your boo, or after attending your 6th wedding with your significant other. I'm talking about the FIRST time. Saying I love you for the first time is a nerve wracking ordeal because you're essentially laying it out on the line hopefully thinking that person loves you back. But when do we admit to the other about being so venerable? When is the right time to confess our love for them? At dinner? At the supermarket? In bed? After sex? WHEN?! Join Jenn and I as we explore when's the right time to do it (if there is such a thing).
Don't you just hate it when you're really falling for someone and it turns out that they're married? No? Just us? Well.. not really conisdering there's a growing number of particpants that this has happened to! What's the deal? Are people not that happy in their relationships? Or is it just being able to have your cake and eating it too? Another full house and a DOOZY of a story that will have you screaming like I did! Tune in!
#46 - “Don’t Text & Love”: Is Intimacy losing to the Internet? w/ guests Heather & author Noble Casalupus
When was the last time you went up to someone and said hi? Or maybe got their number? For some, thisn't isn't out of the ordinary, but for many this is a growing trend where we stay idle behind screens wanting to interact with people but where does that really getting us? Is it more productive to go online and find a beau, or should we go and suck it up and just talk to her? Can we even talk anymore? Are we fine with just "k" and emoji texts all the live long day? Come see what we had to say in this jam-packed episode!
Do 10s only go with 10s, 9s only go with 9s… or can love conquer the numerical odds?
When dealing with love and relationships, We've all heard about "The One". The One that will take the pain away. The one that will make all the stuff you went through worth it. The One that was meant for YOU and you ALONE. Is there someone out there in the world specifically for you? Do they even really exist? If you find someone, how do you know they are it? Was the one you feel you were destined for really in that close proximity of you this whole time, or do you just pick somebody and hope for the best? Is there such thing as magic or does it just boil down to "matter of fact"? Have a listen and see what we think.
#43 - “Hey, can you spot me this time?”: Should Money (or lack thereof) make or break a relationship?
Sooner or later in a relationship, the M word comes into play and we freeze in our tracks. No! Not the OTHER M word - Money! Whether it's paying for a meal, paying for a trip, or paying that last installment on a hall for that first M word, money will come up in a relationship. Who pays for what? How much do you divide? Do you go dutch? Should we splurge? Should we be frugal? It all depends on the people and the relationship. But should money, or lack thereof, hinder a relationship from being great? Would you go out with a person with a menial wage? Would you want a Suga Mama/Daddy as a companion? Let's get into bed and talk this over!
Sometimes people meet and they fit together like a hand in love, but for most people, work is involved to get to that state of "oneness". But is that oneness worth it? Do you feel you have to let go of yourself, or change the the growth of a relationship or should you just find someone who more aligns with how you are? If you do sacrifice, do you feel it will payoff to something better down the line or do you feel you’re being trapped in a clause you can’t get out of?
Around this time most people are looking forward to the leaves changing color, pumpkin spice EVERYthing, sweater weather, warm boots, and hot coco. Other people though have been looking forward to something much more exciting (depending on who you are). ENTER CUFFING SEASON. Don't know what that is? Well, let Jenn & I walk you through this term you probably have heard in your travels. You never know, you probably could have already been participating and not even have known it.
Are you into bear-skin rugs? How about a 12 foot martini glass hot tub? Do you want more of a 70s-esque Austin Power's 70s Shag room? Or a luxury pent house suite? Air Bnb? Bed n Breakfast? Or forego staying inside all together and be on the sands of an island? Where exactly is the new hot spot to take your significant other to? Where does the romance happen nowadays? Jenn & I discuss, but only after a LENGTHY discussion about my love life. Hop in the bed and take a listen!
The kiss in the rain. The confession of truth to a loved one in front of the towns square. A proposal written in the sky. These moments, these gems that we get from movies are etched in our minds. We watch them over and over again because real life can't afford us these pleasantries. But OH do we try to make them happen.. and why not? Emulating these things doesn't mean we're delusional (well, not all of us anyway) but we just love that feeling that makes us warm inside! Listen in and Jenn and I discuss what makes our heart pitter-patter with passion with love!
Have you ever met a person that made you think "I'm really feeling this person, we have such great chemistry but we really don't hold the same values or goals"? Or met someone that you both of your futures lined up perfectly, both share the mindset but they were just "okay" and didn't make your heart go flutter or create a spark inside you? Well what do you do in this situation? Which do you go for? The chemistry based relationship or the compatibility one? You might think that one of these answers is obvious, but it isn't as easy as you think. Listen in and see what Jenn & I had to say about it!
So... you finally meet someone that's worth your time. They're great and you have a lot of fun with them. Trouble is, there's just this one thing: your deal breaker. Other then that, they're good as golden. BUT... what about your deal breaker?? *ERGH* What to do, what to do? Could you forego your rule and continue to go out with this person because they're worth it, or is your deal breaker that strong for you to uphold regardless of how perfect your potential date might be? Let's get into bed, it's time for some pillow talk!
"I'm so confused!" Yeah... exactly what Jenn said. As we all know, dating is a rat race or sorts. Everybody is getting scooped up and you're there nibbling at the scraps. But, what if you didn't have to wait for that special someone to come into your life? What if you could create that person instead? No longer would you have to wait on the long line of Love for your special someone. S/he would be there front and center for YOU and pay attention to YOUR needs, wants & desires. Sounds too good to be true? Well, you're half right. Listen in to find out more!
Have you ever invited your friend out to dinner... but "forgot" to ask out their significant other too? Have you ever tried to date your friend's crush because you knew that they weren't into them anyway so it was okay? Why didn't you tell your homie that his girlfriend is a psycho the first time you met her? Now they're celebrating their engagement and he's only now seeing her true colors. Where is the guy code / girl code ethic? Have you ever violated the unwritten rules of the land? Why are you still friend's with my ex? You did WHAT with my brother?! How come you're calling MY man to help you out at 4am to fix your tires? What else do you want him to fix? Where is the LINE and how do we keep from crossing it?
Now THAT's a slippery slope of a question but one we have to ask ourselves at times. Do you know the difference? When you try and look for a significant other, what do you look for? Things to benefit the overall relationship or things that benefit you? Are you looking to get married because you can't wait to spend time with your spouse or you just want to be a spouse? What are you working towards in a relationship? What is your end goal when it comes to getting a significant other and finding love? We asked ourselves these questions and we came up with some good conclusions but also some scary realizations were brought to light. Listen in and see what they were!
There's something strange... in your instant messenger... and it don't look good.... what you gonna do? GO GHOSTING!!! That's right... the new wave of "new phone, who dis?" is "ghosting"! What exactly IS ghosting and why is it the go to method of avoiding awkward situations or confrontations in dating, relationships, etc? Let's get into bed and have this much needed pillow talk.
In dating, we're so quick to jump from one thing to next to get to that next level, we rarely slow down to see if we can keep the relationship from falling apart along the way. We're so quick to jump from friends to fiances and setting a date, we haven't even checked to see if a foundation has been set. Are our goals aligned? Do we want the same things out of life? Do you want kids? Do you want to live in a rural or urban environment? West coast or East coast? Down south or overseas? Apartment, house/townhouse or live on a boat? Will religion be a factor in our lives? Are you willing to have those conversations? Have you had them or you don't want to ruin a good thing by getting bogged down by reality? Let's get in the bed and start talking!
It's one of those things that many people don't consider talking about because, to them, it's a foregone conclusion on what the answer is - but is it? Could you do it? SHOULD you do it? What the hell are we talking about? Well... are you allowed to date your friend's ex? *WHAT* We know right? "You can't do that!" "Well, maybe" "These hoes ain't loyal"? "All guys are dogs?" Is this a girl code / guy code violation or can this be a fine agreement between parties? Are you okay with your friend swapping spit with a former flame or are you over it and give them blessings & well wishes for another go at love? Tune in! while we get into the dirt! Follow us On Twitter & Instagram! Rate, Review & Subscribe!
"Likes", Relationship statuses, "Pokes" and comments used to be a thing of innocence. But now, they could be the catalyst of a relationship headed south. Why do we get so hung up social media? Why do we feel some type of way we see our man liking a girl's pic on instagram? Why do we get jealous when see a guy comment of our favorite pic of our girlfriend on FB? Why did I receive a "poke" from a person I don't know on our shared account? Should we put so much weight into these platforms? Aren't these apps supposed to be bringing us together? Then why the hell does it seem that they are tearing us apart? When did our networks run "us"? We got a full house this week with all different perspectives on the matter. Tune in and hear us out!
Men pay, women enjoy. Women cook, men enjoy. Men do this, Women do that, blah blah yackity schmackity. What's up with all these rules and regulations? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? Do we even need them anymore or should we hold on to them for tradition's sake? Do you like gender roles how they are or do you think the roles need updating? We discuss all that (and a special congrats are in order!) and more so tune in and hear what we say!