Sometimes after a breakup, regardless of how it went down, a piece of us can't help but wonder how the other person is doing now-a-days. It should be expected though; the person did occupy time in our lives so our brain can't help but do a little flashback. But, other times, we actually go and seek what the person is up to. Should we go back to the past or should we just move forward? What "exactly" are we looking for? Closure? Will we know if or when we find it? Will we be prepared for whatever the outcome is or will we regret snooping around? As they say, "Curiosity killed the cat" but what they rarely say is the res of the phrase "satisfaction brought it back." Should we pry to bring satisfaction to ourselves and fulfill the selfish need or just let things be? Can we truly not help ourselves? Take a listen and see what we said!
#69 - What a JERK: A Mass Debate Among Friends w/guests Joseph from Poli Games & ‘That Horror Chic’ Aimee
Are you "Master of your domain?" Are you "Queen of the Castle?" For anybody not familiar with lines from one of the best episodes in television history, this episode we're talking about Masturbation. *BE WARNED PERSONAL FRIENDS OF THE SHOW* You might not want to hear the stuff Jenn & I talk about. You may not want to know us THAT intimately - and that's fine. Just giving you a heads up! But yeah, this topic is an important topic to discuss and we most certainly had the best guests to lighten the mood on such a taboo subject. But there lies the rub. Why is this topic taboo? Everybody does it, right? So why are we afraid to talk about it? Why do stereotypes about it exist? Why is it frown upon that guys do it, but women get praised because "allegedly" there aren't any men who can satisfy her so she has to go it alone? Is Masturbation a sin? Can you masturbation too much? Shout to Joseph from Poli Games & The GuysWeFucked Podcast for inspiration for this episode!
A much needed sequel from Episode 21, we revisit Jenica and her standing after being divorced for a year. We go in depth to see how it's been back in the world as a single woman, how dating has been after being promised a lifetime partner, and also if she even has TIME to date because of all the projects she's involved in! Tune in and listen to the episode now!
You see that your partner has potential but it hasn't fully blossomed yet. Do you wait for the day for it to bloom or should you just leave and find someone else who's already past that stage of development? There's a saying that goes "good things come to those who wait", but can you afford to now a days? Are they worth it?
If you've ever been in love, "I think s/he's the one!" might've been said once or twice in your life. You've probably also said "Man, I THOUGHT they were the one" a couple times too. We've all been there. When the stars align and you think to yourself, "this is it... I found them." Then something happens and *POOF* the stars burst into a million fragments (just like your heart) and your future life ceases to exist. You're stuck in limbo, and you don't know how to move forward, and you will most certainly never love again. That is until someone else comes along and rewrites your purpose in life and makes you believe again. How do you get from point A to B? How does the new 'One' makes us love again? How did we get the previous 'One' sooo WRONG? 3 Trains Of Thought on this episode where I had a 'One', Jenn has had a 'One' & considers her boo THE 'One', and our guest and a 'One' and married his new One. Please take heed as our guest tells his story from downtrodden to triumphant about how he got from one 'One' to the next and how he's never looked back. Also he gives us advice on what to do when we're in our own limbo as well. Take a listen!
We always try and see the good in people and try not to judge people on the chapter we walked in on in their lives. For the most part, it goes well, but sometimes a person's past no longer wants to stay in the past causing a conversation to be had. Depending on what the issue was (or is), do you stay with that person through thick or thin regardless of the issue? Or do you feel you have the right to walk away and be like "nah, I'm good?" Would you feel guilty or feel you are in your right? Tune in and see what we think!
Have you ever been in a situation where a lie was better then telling the truth? Of COURSE.. we ALL have, but was it worth it? Depends doesn't? Where is our moral compass in these situations? Why can't we just let it out? Is it because we care or is the consequence of the truth too much to bear? Today Jenn (She's BACK!) and I discuss this topic to see if whether we should sparing someone's feelings for the betterment of the relationship.
Ah, the Geek. In media, this is someone you never want to be. Shown as meek, awkward, and unattractive, the geek has served to be the laughing stock of the sitcom social spectrum. Unfortunately (whether we want to admit it or not), they are people in real life that are like that. So is there any hope for them to be successful in the dating game like the "Zack Morris'" or the "AC Slater's" of the world, or will their love life come "screeching" to a halt? On this episode is a very special guest (Dr. NerdLove) to talk about the subject and to set the record straight on Geeks and their odds in the dating game.
To quote a song by Rob Thomas, "Here we stand, somewhere in between this moment and the end." You've done all you can but it's time to say goodbye. But how do you? It's one thing to end a relationship when you were on your own, but what about if you lived together? It's bad enough that the relationship is over, but who goes? Who stays? How do you tell the one that you loved to get the hell out? Do you throw their stuff out on the lawn? Do you supervise? Do you give them a timetable to when to get their stuff? How do you move out and move on to green pastures? Have a listen and see what we had to say!
It's one of those things that could define a relationship OR something that just happens within it - which makes it all the more confusing! What are we talking about? Giving a key to your place. For some it's a "next step". But for others it's convenient they don't have to get up when you ring the bell anymore. What say you? Do YOU think it's a "big deal" to get a key to your significant other's place? Or do you feel it's just something you do when you're in a relationship? Or maybe it's something that you don't do AT ALL? Listen in and see what we had to say!
Flirting. Pet names. Cuddle time. Vacations. Quality Time. All awesome things that you and a significant other can do right? But what if you were doing these things with just... a friend? Not a friend with benefits, or a friend that you are trying to see a future with, but nope.. a plain ol friend. Weird, huh? Well, not according to some people who have done it in my & Jenn's lives. Some feel it's completely fine to assign cutesy names, or attend events that our dear to you, or travel across the country with you and still be able to stay platonic with you. Um.. what? Maybe it's cool for some, but it's definitely something that I'm not cool with. Tune in and find out what Jenn and I think!
When is the "right" time to get int a relationship? Is there such a thing? How about if you meet the right person and you're not ready to engage in a budding future? What do you do? Do you fake it til you make it or do you let that go? But what if that person was "The One?" Could you afford letting them slip away? Or do good things come to those to wait? Jennifer and I take a stab at this conundrum and see if we can figure out what the hell to do in this sort of situation.
At times we feel resistant to tell others, let alone our significant others, things about ourselves. It's hard to let people in. Sometimes we like to create perfect caricatures of ourselves to tote around and be our representative instead of revealing the truth to others. Maybe to protect ourselves, or not have the other person run away in embarrassment or fear if they unearth what you're hiding. But is that a healthy way of living? Should you have this tomb of secrets that no one else should know about beside you? Or should you find someone capable of knowing the real you?
"All work and no play..." seems to be more then just a line from a scary movie. It seems to lend itself to a potentially scary LIFE. What is there to life if you don't have someone to share it with, but what is a life if there's nothing in it BUT that person? Damned if you do, damned if you don't? That's one of the many questions posed in this episode. How do we find that balance or do we just say 'fuck it", pick a path and run with it? Tune in to see what Randy, Jennifer, and I have to say.
Would you go out with a person based on the decision of your friend? How much of a sway do your friends have in your relationships? Should they have any at all? Do they have your best interests in mind, or could there be a hidden agenda? Friend or #FOH (F@&K OUTTA Here!)?
#55 - *HAPPY 1YR BLB* / Say What You Need To Say: How to (Properly) Communicate w/guest Miss April Speaks
A is for Apple, B for Bread, Y is for “Why” do we have to go through this over and over again? This ever happen to you? Just misinterpreting what the other person says? Or worse, you're just waiting for the other person to shut up just to get your point across? Listening to reply and not to understand is a big problem in the world today, especially in relationships. Can men & women ever be on the same page? Will we ever just be able to talk straight to each other and do away with the mixed messages and taking things in the wrong way? Find out what Jennifer, Miss April Speaks, and I find to say about the subject in our first ever LiveCast to celebrate our 1st birthday of BedLoveBeyond!!
"Why don't they like me?" "Why do I keep losing partners?" "Why can't we go futher?" "Aren't I worth it?" are all questions that have crossed our minds one point or another during our dating career. All familiar questions we ask ourselves to find out if there's anything "wrong" with us. Whether there is or not is another topic, but the point is, are we really not up to snuff for our partners or are we fooling ourselves into thinking as such? Are we actually good enough and this lull is just a "mind-over-matter" thing or are we delusional and we really need to get some work done internally? Tune in and see what Jennifer & I have to say!
If you're in a relationship, there's no avoiding it, you will eventually have to have "the talk!" It's not a bad thing per se, but most people dread its eventuality. Some feel it ruins the natural flow of things by putting a definitive title on something that is still forming and evolving. Others feel their time might be wasted waiting for someone to make up their mind. Regardless of the reason(s), it's something that people in budding relationships must go through in order to grow.. OR to go. Tune in as Jennifer & I "talk" about why "the talk" is something nobody wants to speak up about.
#52 - Large & in Charge: What’s the “Skinny” on the Rise of the Plus Size? w/ guest (& “Plushy”) model Jenica
With #IAmSexy, #ImNoAngel, & #DropThePlus hashtags (and many more!) making the rounds for the last couple of years, it's no secrect that the Plus Size movement is making itself heard. For much too long, society has only showed us a very narrow window into what can be deemed as "beauty" and the rest of the world is dying to show us that other side. With models like Ashley Graham, Iskra Lawerence, and Tess Holiday leading the charge, these wonder women along with every other plus size person will tell the world that they too are beautiful. Today in bed with us is the lovely Jenica, back from being a guest on Episode 21 about divorce. We haven't heard from her since and BOY you have to see where her life has taken her now! TUNE IN!
#51 - Dating while Living with Your Parents: a “Fuller House”? Or is “Three’s Company”? w/guest Poli Games
Pardon the sitcom puns, but they are very relevant in the dating climate we're in. Is being with your parents as a full adult cool or is it too much? Do you bring your boo into the fold to add to the family, or is 2 parents too many? More and more each year, people are having to make the hard choice and stay with their parents at their home longer then they intended. Some find it embarrassing and feel it's stunting their growth, while others have made the best of their situation by saving up money for future plans. Regardless of your reason, staying at your parents home as a grown up is... trying at times. From not being able to stay out late, to your parents cramping your style with your significant other, to just being in the WAY, your parents tend to be a constant thorn on your side. Today we have a full house with special guest Poli Games and their own unique set-up lends itself perfectly to the topic at hand. Let's get into bed and listen!