Ah, the Geek. In media, this is someone you never want to be. Shown as meek, awkward, and unattractive, the geek has served to be the laughing stock of the sitcom social spectrum. Unfortunately (whether we want to admit it or not), they are people in real life that are like that. So is there any hope for them to be successful in the dating game like the "Zack Morris'" or the "AC Slater's" of the world, or will their love life come "screeching" to a halt? On this episode is a very special guest (Dr. NerdLove) to talk about the subject and to set the record straight on Geeks and their odds in the dating game.
To quote a song by Rob Thomas, "Here we stand, somewhere in between this moment and the end." You've done all you can but it's time to say goodbye. But how do you? It's one thing to end a relationship when you were on your own, but what about if you lived together? It's bad enough that the relationship is over, but who goes? Who stays? How do you tell the one that you loved to get the hell out? Do you throw their stuff out on the lawn? Do you supervise? Do you give them a timetable to when to get their stuff? How do you move out and move on to green pastures? Have a listen and see what we had to say!
It's one of those things that could define a relationship OR something that just happens within it - which makes it all the more confusing! What are we talking about? Giving a key to your place. For some it's a "next step". But for others it's convenient they don't have to get up when you ring the bell anymore. What say you? Do YOU think it's a "big deal" to get a key to your significant other's place? Or do you feel it's just something you do when you're in a relationship? Or maybe it's something that you don't do AT ALL? Listen in and see what we had to say!
Flirting. Pet names. Cuddle time. Vacations. Quality Time. All awesome things that you and a significant other can do right? But what if you were doing these things with just... a friend? Not a friend with benefits, or a friend that you are trying to see a future with, but nope.. a plain ol friend. Weird, huh? Well, not according to some people who have done it in my & Jenn's lives. Some feel it's completely fine to assign cutesy names, or attend events that our dear to you, or travel across the country with you and still be able to stay platonic with you. Um.. what? Maybe it's cool for some, but it's definitely something that I'm not cool with. Tune in and find out what Jenn and I think!
When is the "right" time to get int a relationship? Is there such a thing? How about if you meet the right person and you're not ready to engage in a budding future? What do you do? Do you fake it til you make it or do you let that go? But what if that person was "The One?" Could you afford letting them slip away? Or do good things come to those to wait? Jennifer and I take a stab at this conundrum and see if we can figure out what the hell to do in this sort of situation.
At times we feel resistant to tell others, let alone our significant others, things about ourselves. It's hard to let people in. Sometimes we like to create perfect caricatures of ourselves to tote around and be our representative instead of revealing the truth to others. Maybe to protect ourselves, or not have the other person run away in embarrassment or fear if they unearth what you're hiding. But is that a healthy way of living? Should you have this tomb of secrets that no one else should know about beside you? Or should you find someone capable of knowing the real you?
"All work and no play..." seems to be more then just a line from a scary movie. It seems to lend itself to a potentially scary LIFE. What is there to life if you don't have someone to share it with, but what is a life if there's nothing in it BUT that person? Damned if you do, damned if you don't? That's one of the many questions posed in this episode. How do we find that balance or do we just say 'fuck it", pick a path and run with it? Tune in to see what Randy, Jennifer, and I have to say.
Would you go out with a person based on the decision of your friend? How much of a sway do your friends have in your relationships? Should they have any at all? Do they have your best interests in mind, or could there be a hidden agenda? Friend or #FOH (F@&K OUTTA Here!)?
#55 - *HAPPY 1YR BLB* / Say What You Need To Say: How to (Properly) Communicate w/guest Miss April Speaks
A is for Apple, B for Bread, Y is for “Why” do we have to go through this over and over again? This ever happen to you? Just misinterpreting what the other person says? Or worse, you're just waiting for the other person to shut up just to get your point across? Listening to reply and not to understand is a big problem in the world today, especially in relationships. Can men & women ever be on the same page? Will we ever just be able to talk straight to each other and do away with the mixed messages and taking things in the wrong way? Find out what Jennifer, Miss April Speaks, and I find to say about the subject in our first ever LiveCast to celebrate our 1st birthday of BedLoveBeyond!!
"Why don't they like me?" "Why do I keep losing partners?" "Why can't we go futher?" "Aren't I worth it?" are all questions that have crossed our minds one point or another during our dating career. All familiar questions we ask ourselves to find out if there's anything "wrong" with us. Whether there is or not is another topic, but the point is, are we really not up to snuff for our partners or are we fooling ourselves into thinking as such? Are we actually good enough and this lull is just a "mind-over-matter" thing or are we delusional and we really need to get some work done internally? Tune in and see what Jennifer & I have to say!
If you're in a relationship, there's no avoiding it, you will eventually have to have "the talk!" It's not a bad thing per se, but most people dread its eventuality. Some feel it ruins the natural flow of things by putting a definitive title on something that is still forming and evolving. Others feel their time might be wasted waiting for someone to make up their mind. Regardless of the reason(s), it's something that people in budding relationships must go through in order to grow.. OR to go. Tune in as Jennifer & I "talk" about why "the talk" is something nobody wants to speak up about.
#52 - Large & in Charge: What’s the “Skinny” on the Rise of the Plus Size? w/ guest (& “Plushy”) model Jenica
With #IAmSexy, #ImNoAngel, & #DropThePlus hashtags (and many more!) making the rounds for the last couple of years, it's no secrect that the Plus Size movement is making itself heard. For much too long, society has only showed us a very narrow window into what can be deemed as "beauty" and the rest of the world is dying to show us that other side. With models like Ashley Graham, Iskra Lawerence, and Tess Holiday leading the charge, these wonder women along with every other plus size person will tell the world that they too are beautiful. Today in bed with us is the lovely Jenica, back from being a guest on Episode 21 about divorce. We haven't heard from her since and BOY you have to see where her life has taken her now! TUNE IN!
#51 - Dating while Living with Your Parents: a “Fuller House”? Or is “Three’s Company”? w/guest Poli Games
Pardon the sitcom puns, but they are very relevant in the dating climate we're in. Is being with your parents as a full adult cool or is it too much? Do you bring your boo into the fold to add to the family, or is 2 parents too many? More and more each year, people are having to make the hard choice and stay with their parents at their home longer then they intended. Some find it embarrassing and feel it's stunting their growth, while others have made the best of their situation by saving up money for future plans. Regardless of your reason, staying at your parents home as a grown up is... trying at times. From not being able to stay out late, to your parents cramping your style with your significant other, to just being in the WAY, your parents tend to be a constant thorn on your side. Today we have a full house with special guest Poli Games and their own unique set-up lends itself perfectly to the topic at hand. Let's get into bed and listen!
#50 - Have you ever “Dodged a Bullet?”: What the “would have been’s” taught us about the Wrong Relationship (and what to look for in the Right One)
That moment after you break up with someone is always hard. Whether you broke it off or they did, it's a big decision to decide that you don't want to continue down the path you were going. Upon reflection of that decision, have you ever wondered "wow, I sure came out on top!" or do you feel that other person might be the one "winning" at life? Has any of your friends come to you telling you about the last person that you messed with and you thanked the lord you ended it before you got that far with them? This episode is all about the "shoulda / coulda / woulda's" and how we believe we might have fared off better without them regardless how of we felt about them at the time.
#49 - Holidays with Your Honey: “Joy to The World?” or “Run, Rudolph, Run!” w/ guests Chris & Weldon from “The Way We See It” Podcast
Yes... it's the end of the year, so "t'is the season"! But which season is it? The season of merriment or decking someone's balls.. i mean halls? Yes, it's that time of the year where everything is amazing and annoying at the very same time and now you have a signficant other right in the thick of it all too. "Where do you go for the Thanksgiving?" "Didn't we go there for Christmas last year?" "Can't we stay home?" "Where are we opening gifts?" "Do we exchange gifts in the first place? We just met..." etc etc... Bah Humbug! But seriously what do you do to settle the winter woes? We have a full house today as Chris & Weldon from "The Way See It Podcast" joins us to discuss what in the hell do we do this holiday.
Time and time again we psych ourselves out over saying those 3 little words. We go crazy because we know what those words mean. I'm not talking about saying it for the 48th time before you hang up the phone with your boo, or after attending your 6th wedding with your significant other. I'm talking about the FIRST time. Saying I love you for the first time is a nerve wracking ordeal because you're essentially laying it out on the line hopefully thinking that person loves you back. But when do we admit to the other about being so venerable? When is the right time to confess our love for them? At dinner? At the supermarket? In bed? After sex? WHEN?! Join Jenn and I as we explore when's the right time to do it (if there is such a thing).
Don't you just hate it when you're really falling for someone and it turns out that they're married? No? Just us? Well.. not really conisdering there's a growing number of particpants that this has happened to! What's the deal? Are people not that happy in their relationships? Or is it just being able to have your cake and eating it too? Another full house and a DOOZY of a story that will have you screaming like I did! Tune in!
#46 - “Don’t Text & Love”: Is Intimacy losing to the Internet? w/ guests Heather & author Noble Casalupus
When was the last time you went up to someone and said hi? Or maybe got their number? For some, thisn't isn't out of the ordinary, but for many this is a growing trend where we stay idle behind screens wanting to interact with people but where does that really getting us? Is it more productive to go online and find a beau, or should we go and suck it up and just talk to her? Can we even talk anymore? Are we fine with just "k" and emoji texts all the live long day? Come see what we had to say in this jam-packed episode!
Do 10s only go with 10s, 9s only go with 9s… or can love conquer the numerical odds?
When dealing with love and relationships, We've all heard about "The One". The One that will take the pain away. The one that will make all the stuff you went through worth it. The One that was meant for YOU and you ALONE. Is there someone out there in the world specifically for you? Do they even really exist? If you find someone, how do you know they are it? Was the one you feel you were destined for really in that close proximity of you this whole time, or do you just pick somebody and hope for the best? Is there such thing as magic or does it just boil down to "matter of fact"? Have a listen and see what we think.