If you're in a relationship, there's no avoiding it, you will eventually have to have "the talk!" It's not a bad thing per se, but most people dread its eventuality. Some feel it ruins the natural flow of things by putting a definitive title on something that is still forming and evolving. Others feel their time might be wasted waiting for someone to make up their mind. Regardless of the reason(s), it's something that people in budding relationships must go through in order to grow.. OR to go. Tune in as Jennifer & I "talk" about why "the talk" is something nobody wants to speak up about.
#52 - Large & in Charge: What’s the “Skinny” on the Rise of the Plus Size? w/ guest (& “Plushy”) model Jenica
With #IAmSexy, #ImNoAngel, & #DropThePlus hashtags (and many more!) making the rounds for the last couple of years, it's no secrect that the Plus Size movement is making itself heard. For much too long, society has only showed us a very narrow window into what can be deemed as "beauty" and the rest of the world is dying to show us that other side. With models like Ashley Graham, Iskra Lawerence, and Tess Holiday leading the charge, these wonder women along with every other plus size person will tell the world that they too are beautiful. Today in bed with us is the lovely Jenica, back from being a guest on Episode 21 about divorce. We haven't heard from her since and BOY you have to see where her life has taken her now! TUNE IN!
#51 - Dating while Living with Your Parents: a “Fuller House”? Or is “Three’s Company”? w/guest Poli Games
Pardon the sitcom puns, but they are very relevant in the dating climate we're in. Is being with your parents as a full adult cool or is it too much? Do you bring your boo into the fold to add to the family, or is 2 parents too many? More and more each year, people are having to make the hard choice and stay with their parents at their home longer then they intended. Some find it embarrassing and feel it's stunting their growth, while others have made the best of their situation by saving up money for future plans. Regardless of your reason, staying at your parents home as a grown up is... trying at times. From not being able to stay out late, to your parents cramping your style with your significant other, to just being in the WAY, your parents tend to be a constant thorn on your side. Today we have a full house with special guest Poli Games and their own unique set-up lends itself perfectly to the topic at hand. Let's get into bed and listen!
#50 - Have you ever “Dodged a Bullet?”: What the “would have been’s” taught us about the Wrong Relationship (and what to look for in the Right One)
That moment after you break up with someone is always hard. Whether you broke it off or they did, it's a big decision to decide that you don't want to continue down the path you were going. Upon reflection of that decision, have you ever wondered "wow, I sure came out on top!" or do you feel that other person might be the one "winning" at life? Has any of your friends come to you telling you about the last person that you messed with and you thanked the lord you ended it before you got that far with them? This episode is all about the "shoulda / coulda / woulda's" and how we believe we might have fared off better without them regardless how of we felt about them at the time.
#49 - Holidays with Your Honey: “Joy to The World?” or “Run, Rudolph, Run!” w/ guests Chris & Weldon from “The Way We See It” Podcast
Yes... it's the end of the year, so "t'is the season"! But which season is it? The season of merriment or decking someone's balls.. i mean halls? Yes, it's that time of the year where everything is amazing and annoying at the very same time and now you have a signficant other right in the thick of it all too. "Where do you go for the Thanksgiving?" "Didn't we go there for Christmas last year?" "Can't we stay home?" "Where are we opening gifts?" "Do we exchange gifts in the first place? We just met..." etc etc... Bah Humbug! But seriously what do you do to settle the winter woes? We have a full house today as Chris & Weldon from "The Way See It Podcast" joins us to discuss what in the hell do we do this holiday.
Time and time again we psych ourselves out over saying those 3 little words. We go crazy because we know what those words mean. I'm not talking about saying it for the 48th time before you hang up the phone with your boo, or after attending your 6th wedding with your significant other. I'm talking about the FIRST time. Saying I love you for the first time is a nerve wracking ordeal because you're essentially laying it out on the line hopefully thinking that person loves you back. But when do we admit to the other about being so venerable? When is the right time to confess our love for them? At dinner? At the supermarket? In bed? After sex? WHEN?! Join Jenn and I as we explore when's the right time to do it (if there is such a thing).
Don't you just hate it when you're really falling for someone and it turns out that they're married? No? Just us? Well.. not really conisdering there's a growing number of particpants that this has happened to! What's the deal? Are people not that happy in their relationships? Or is it just being able to have your cake and eating it too? Another full house and a DOOZY of a story that will have you screaming like I did! Tune in!
#46 - “Don’t Text & Love”: Is Intimacy losing to the Internet? w/ guests Heather & author Noble Casalupus
When was the last time you went up to someone and said hi? Or maybe got their number? For some, thisn't isn't out of the ordinary, but for many this is a growing trend where we stay idle behind screens wanting to interact with people but where does that really getting us? Is it more productive to go online and find a beau, or should we go and suck it up and just talk to her? Can we even talk anymore? Are we fine with just "k" and emoji texts all the live long day? Come see what we had to say in this jam-packed episode!
Do 10s only go with 10s, 9s only go with 9s… or can love conquer the numerical odds?
When dealing with love and relationships, We've all heard about "The One". The One that will take the pain away. The one that will make all the stuff you went through worth it. The One that was meant for YOU and you ALONE. Is there someone out there in the world specifically for you? Do they even really exist? If you find someone, how do you know they are it? Was the one you feel you were destined for really in that close proximity of you this whole time, or do you just pick somebody and hope for the best? Is there such thing as magic or does it just boil down to "matter of fact"? Have a listen and see what we think.
#43 - “Hey, can you spot me this time?”: Should Money (or lack thereof) make or break a relationship?
Sooner or later in a relationship, the M word comes into play and we freeze in our tracks. No! Not the OTHER M word - Money! Whether it's paying for a meal, paying for a trip, or paying that last installment on a hall for that first M word, money will come up in a relationship. Who pays for what? How much do you divide? Do you go dutch? Should we splurge? Should we be frugal? It all depends on the people and the relationship. But should money, or lack thereof, hinder a relationship from being great? Would you go out with a person with a menial wage? Would you want a Suga Mama/Daddy as a companion? Let's get into bed and talk this over!
Sometimes people meet and they fit together like a hand in love, but for most people, work is involved to get to that state of "oneness". But is that oneness worth it? Do you feel you have to let go of yourself, or change the the growth of a relationship or should you just find someone who more aligns with how you are? If you do sacrifice, do you feel it will payoff to something better down the line or do you feel you’re being trapped in a clause you can’t get out of?
Around this time most people are looking forward to the leaves changing color, pumpkin spice EVERYthing, sweater weather, warm boots, and hot coco. Other people though have been looking forward to something much more exciting (depending on who you are). ENTER CUFFING SEASON. Don't know what that is? Well, let Jenn & I walk you through this term you probably have heard in your travels. You never know, you probably could have already been participating and not even have known it.
Are you into bear-skin rugs? How about a 12 foot martini glass hot tub? Do you want more of a 70s-esque Austin Power's 70s Shag room? Or a luxury pent house suite? Air Bnb? Bed n Breakfast? Or forego staying inside all together and be on the sands of an island? Where exactly is the new hot spot to take your significant other to? Where does the romance happen nowadays? Jenn & I discuss, but only after a LENGTHY discussion about my love life. Hop in the bed and take a listen!
The kiss in the rain. The confession of truth to a loved one in front of the towns square. A proposal written in the sky. These moments, these gems that we get from movies are etched in our minds. We watch them over and over again because real life can't afford us these pleasantries. But OH do we try to make them happen.. and why not? Emulating these things doesn't mean we're delusional (well, not all of us anyway) but we just love that feeling that makes us warm inside! Listen in and Jenn and I discuss what makes our heart pitter-patter with passion with love!
Have you ever met a person that made you think "I'm really feeling this person, we have such great chemistry but we really don't hold the same values or goals"? Or met someone that you both of your futures lined up perfectly, both share the mindset but they were just "okay" and didn't make your heart go flutter or create a spark inside you? Well what do you do in this situation? Which do you go for? The chemistry based relationship or the compatibility one? You might think that one of these answers is obvious, but it isn't as easy as you think. Listen in and see what Jenn & I had to say about it!
So... you finally meet someone that's worth your time. They're great and you have a lot of fun with them. Trouble is, there's just this one thing: your deal breaker. Other then that, they're good as golden. BUT... what about your deal breaker?? *ERGH* What to do, what to do? Could you forego your rule and continue to go out with this person because they're worth it, or is your deal breaker that strong for you to uphold regardless of how perfect your potential date might be? Let's get into bed, it's time for some pillow talk!
"I'm so confused!" Yeah... exactly what Jenn said. As we all know, dating is a rat race or sorts. Everybody is getting scooped up and you're there nibbling at the scraps. But, what if you didn't have to wait for that special someone to come into your life? What if you could create that person instead? No longer would you have to wait on the long line of Love for your special someone. S/he would be there front and center for YOU and pay attention to YOUR needs, wants & desires. Sounds too good to be true? Well, you're half right. Listen in to find out more!
Have you ever invited your friend out to dinner... but "forgot" to ask out their significant other too? Have you ever tried to date your friend's crush because you knew that they weren't into them anyway so it was okay? Why didn't you tell your homie that his girlfriend is a psycho the first time you met her? Now they're celebrating their engagement and he's only now seeing her true colors. Where is the guy code / girl code ethic? Have you ever violated the unwritten rules of the land? Why are you still friend's with my ex? You did WHAT with my brother?! How come you're calling MY man to help you out at 4am to fix your tires? What else do you want him to fix? Where is the LINE and how do we keep from crossing it?
Now THAT's a slippery slope of a question but one we have to ask ourselves at times. Do you know the difference? When you try and look for a significant other, what do you look for? Things to benefit the overall relationship or things that benefit you? Are you looking to get married because you can't wait to spend time with your spouse or you just want to be a spouse? What are you working towards in a relationship? What is your end goal when it comes to getting a significant other and finding love? We asked ourselves these questions and we came up with some good conclusions but also some scary realizations were brought to light. Listen in and see what they were!